Women's Month

Last week marked two auspicious female celebratory events and that was the International Women's Day and Mother's day. And while i thought it apt not only to declare this month Women's month but also to put up a post in celebration of women worldwide, my post on Women took a bit of a hit. I had started by quoting American country singer(Taylor Swift) quoting an unknown quote by an American broadcaster (Katie Couric);"There's a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. The young singer was passionately defending herself against a joke cracked by two female comedians about her very public and numerous relationships. I then went to town to explore the notion that even though International Women's Day is probably supposed to be a celebration about the gender equality, women empowerment and the giant strides and achievement women have attained through the ages, it was a universal fact that, ' Women are women's own enemies.'

I highlighted instances where women would gossip,snitch and back stab and generally stand in the way of each other's success( because frankly, having gone to an all girls secondary school, and having 90% female friends most of my life, this was my reality). I felt reasonably smug when my post was done even though it was seeming more like a war manual on 'how to protect yourself from the women in your life.'

This was of course until i spoke to my mother and brother who made me come to the conclusion that it wasn't about women loving each other or any of the other self righteous things i had professed. My mum told me about how supportive she and her few friends were of each other,they did business together and basically created a strong support system for each other. And thinking about it, I know a few women in my life that are downright fabulous in every sense of the word. I soon came to the realization that it isn't so much the second of the person, it's about the individual.In my brother's words, it's about not seeking affirmation or self validation from anyone else.Only you can hold yourself back...not the support or lack of from anyone. You need absolutely no one's permission to be successful, or to live your life.Be you male or female, be fiercely and fabulously you. Happy Women's March!!